I know it's been awhile since I wrote a post but I'm back and there's been something that has been bothering me.
As a family we like to get out and go different places and we like to go out to eat as a family. As we go out it has become more and more of a struggle for numerous reasons. All the kids are getting more and more mobile and are interested in more things and going in opposite directions. The boys are really asking questions about stuff and when we are out and about we are trying to teach them new things as well as good manners. It seems like we have turned into a traveling circus. Everywhere we go people comment on our family and how we have 2 sets of twins. The first few times we went out and about after having the girls we thought it was pretty funny and would make comments back to people. We always get a laugh out of people who think they are talking under their breath yet we hear every word, “look 2 sets of twins”, "those people are crazy".
The comment that we enjoy or “dislike” the most is when people ask if they are twins. Then they follow that up with are they all boys or girls? "WHAT was that people?" No, we just have a boy who is 3 and the other one is 6 but they are the same size and look alike! We dress our girls like girly girls they always have headbands on and pink or purple clothes. Are people just too lazy to actually look at them and notice they are dressed in pink, with bows and pierced ears “yes they are girls!"
The other thing that really gets under a parents skin is when people think they have the right to just touch your kid or think that you need help when you don’t. A perfect example of this was last week when we went for dinner. The restaurant was packed so the girls and I went to sit down and I started feeding them. The line was long so people were standing by our table waiting in line and that distracted the girls, which is fine because there is nothing we can do about that. I was feeding the girls and they were both looking at this lady and I tried to get their attention to give them another bite and the lady grabs the spoon out of my hand and tries to feed it to MY kids! WHAT?!?!? Of course both started crying when a STRANGER (yes lady you are a stranger) tried to feed them and wouldn’t stop till the lady would leave. So after all of that Jenn gets back to the table with the boys and I was telling her about it and she said that while she was in line she picked up Joel to look at the menu someone just picked up Jackson because he was whining and wanted to be picked up but Jenn wasn’t going to pick him up because she was holding Joel. Again, people you are STRANGERS. I wouldn’t walk into a place and just pick up someone’s kid or try and feed a kid because he was looking at me.
As I am writing this I don't want people to think that we are complaining but people just need to use a little common sense and give us space and our privacy as we do you and your family. It would also be easy for people to say, "well then don't go out" but we have every right to get our and enjoy life and do things with our family as you do but it seems like it is becoming more and more of a challenge and it is typically not the kids' fault.
Love, Jon/DADA
